Kaleo Church Sermon

What loving is not

Loving is not only sex

Loving is not getting only what you want

Loving is not winning an argument

Loving is not giving in to her ungodly desires

Loving is not lording over her

Loving is not speaking negatively about her to friends

Loving is not comparing her to other women

What loving is

Loving is giving yourself in all ways to her that honors Christ

Loving is gentle

Loving is kind

Loving is forgiving

Loving is not rude

Loving is peaceful

Loving is forgetting wrongs

Loving is seeing her difference as a blessing and not a curse

Loving is seeking to best understand and model the gospel

Loving is wanting to provide and protect her

Loving is wanting to spend time with her, not under guilt or compulsion

Loving is delighting in and desiring your wife

If men and women who are married spent time cultivating their love for God and submission to Christ’s Lordship, they would find themselves less in distress over submission and sacrificial love. When a woman love’s Christ above her husband, she is able to submit freely and willingly to Jesus first, which then empowers her to submit freely and willingly to her husband whom her Father in heaven has blessed her with. If a man loves Christ first, he is then able to receive the love only Christ can give. This then empowers and frees him to live in response to this amazing love and thus share it in abundance with the wife of his youth whom his Father in Heaven has bless him with.

It is only through the gospel of grace that we are able to possess and exercise these two great relational virtues. It is only through Christ’s submission and his faithfulness in love that we are able to submit and love as we ought.

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