What is love
What loving is not
Loving is not only sex
Loving is not getting only what you want
Loving is not winning an argument
Loving is not giving in to her ungodly desires
Loving is not lording over her
Loving is not speaking negatively about her to friends
Loving is not comparing her to other women
What loving isLoving is giving yourself in all ways to her that honors Christ
Loving is gentle
Loving is kind
Loving is forgiving
Loving is not rude
Loving is peaceful
Loving is forgetting wrongs
Loving is seeing her difference as a blessing and not a curse
Loving is seeking to best understand and model the gospel
Loving is wanting to provide and protect her
Loving is wanting to spend time with her, not under guilt or compulsion
Loving is delighting in and desiring your wife
If men and women who are married spent time cultivating their love for God and submission to Christ’s Lordship, they would find themselves less in distress over submission and sacrificial love. When a woman love’s Christ above her husband, she is able to submit freely and willingly to Jesus first, which then empowers her to submit freely and willingly to her husband whom her Father in heaven has blessed her with. If a man loves Christ first, he is then able to receive the love only Christ can give. This then empowers and frees him to live in response to this amazing love and thus share it in abundance with the wife of his youth whom his Father in Heaven has bless him with.It is only through the gospel of grace that we are able to possess and exercise these two great relational virtues. It is only through Christ’s submission and his faithfulness in love that we are able to submit and love as we ought.